Stuck? Go smaller.

  My friend Matt had an anxiety attack on a plane once, years before I met him. By the time we became friends, he wouldn’t get on one. His work is very meaningful, and not getting on planes was limiting the number of people he could serve. That was reason enough...

There is an art to failing

  Having coached hundreds of people in the becurrent methodology, I’ve had the rare privilege to look under the hood of many lives: people’s earnest dreams, their hopes, fears, doubts, struggles, celebrations and failings – are all always on display. What...

Respect the board

  To make the decision to do or not do something is an art. Heck, to make a decision on what to eat, who to marry, and what to do in the next hour of our lives – all of it is an art. A fine art. And like fine art, it requires practice and a set of rules....

Where is your mojo?

  I remember, years ago, coaching Jason, a partner in a Manhattan law firm. At the time, I’d started a company shadowing execs and giving them feedback in real time. Jason had hired me to help him improve his relationships at the office. I suggested he set up...

How to clean up your boundaries with one simple word

  I remember vividly when I made the decision it was rude to say “no.” My 6-year-old brother tried it on my mother, and it didn’t go well. I don’t remember what he said no to. I just remember her humming anxiously, stomping around, making sure he knew he was bad...